心路历程。。

何佩文，25岁了~

生日快乐~

妈妈传简讯说：生日快乐，其实你昨晚很漂亮的，中午你回来吃饭吗?

弟弟传简讯说：生日快乐，祝你工作顺利，身体健康，早日找到心上人。

爸爸传简讯说：生性些啦，又生日了，生日快乐，送只红鸡蛋~

 

看到这些简讯，眼泪又不争气的流下来~只能给爸妈回复一句，让你们费心了。

一直把自己惦记在心上的，还是家人。

一直以来，我都不是个让他们省心的女儿，我太叛逆，脾气又不好，总是坚持自己想要的想做的，总要跟他们宣扬那些，我的生命我负责，我要我自己的生活的理论。

 

谢谢你们24年来对我的迁就和宽容，实在让你们费心了。谢谢~

 

 

 18岁至28岁

    1、多读书，多思考。其好处到你25岁以后会逐渐显现。知识才能改变命运，而老公只能改变你的生活，你可以是知识的主人，但你只是老公的配偶。

    2、争取考入一个起码二流的大学，当然一流最好。读大学的时候不要错过谈恋爱，更不要错过一切可以自我表现和锻炼的机会。

    3、每天把自己打扮得漂亮可爱一点，投入地爱一次，大多数女人需要一次刻骨铭心的爱，这样可以尽早出现情感免疫，也可以为未来的日子留出更多理性的空间。

    4、如果你不打算“丁克”，条件又允许的话，趁着父母还可以做兼职保姆，抓紧时间生个baby，这种结果对于一个重视正常流水线生活的女人来讲是有必要的。

    28岁至38岁

    5、不要忘了抽空读读书和报纸，时尚杂志的数量最好不要超过40%，因为你已经不是个女孩子了，尽管你十分不情愿，但你还可以买毛绒玩具。

    6、能不错过婚姻，还是不要错过。当然一旦错过，千万不要将就，找错人给你和他带来的伤害可能比不结婚还要大。结婚不是一件十分大不了的事情，如果是为了父母结婚的话，那就试着去爱你的老公，慢牛股虽然没有激情，至少不会狂起狂跌，免得你身心憔悴，疲惫不堪。

    7、要有几个红颜和蓝颜知己，红颜知己可以让你了解和放松自己，蓝颜知己有助于你了解男人和这个社会。如果你控制不了自己非要和知己上床，那恭喜你有了情人，享受自我的同时请不要抱怨保守人士扔过来的臭鸡蛋。其实，上床的权利最终决定于女人，有所不为才能有所为，无原则的心软或挑逗只会让你成为弃妇或木子美。

    8、超过25岁有男朋友的，如果没有什么大不了的矛盾最好不要考虑分手，尤其你还是个以结婚作为归宿的人。年龄越大，跟陌生人磨合的成本越高，变成第三者的几率也就越大，不过，生活是自由的，单身有单身的寂寞和快乐，结婚有结婚的苦恼和孤独，如果不考虑以婚姻为归宿，那你不必在意。

    9、如果你决定和你爱的人结婚，不要在乎主动付出做一个体贴的好老婆，能有人值得你付出女人的一切是你的幸福，也是婚姻漫长夜空中闪烁的礼花，有爱才有温存，有温存才有幸福。如果不幸没有找到这个人，你要知道自己在做什么并能为自己负责就可以了。

    10、过了28岁以后，要全力以赴自己的事业，这时候的你是最累的，既要是个好老婆，还要是个好员工，如果你很荣幸地成为中层，那恐怕你绝不担心减肥的事情了。当然也不是每个女人都有这种强烈的事业心，但至少你可以做一些自己喜好的事情，哪怕写点文章，琼瑶阿姨写的东西就卖了不少钱，也许你比她还强。不要告诉我你只喜欢躺在沙发上看电视和吃零食。

    11、买一套自己的房子，可住可租。有机会不妨出国旅游，既放松又长见识。实在资金不足还可以骑自行车出去看看路上的帅哥，好心情是自己创造的。

    12、要知道你太爱你的工作了，不过最好别爱上你的老板。

    13、一定要做一个经济独立、思想独立的女人，在这个前提下，找个尊重你的好老公，毫无压力地做只小乖猫。

    38岁以后

    14、无论如何你都找不回从前的青春感受，看到周围的年轻人，只有两个字：羡慕。这时候的女人气质最重要，气质离不开内涵，感谢你曾经读过的书和奋斗自省、乐观付出的生活历程吧，气质是装不出来的。

    15、38岁以后的女人一定要有自己的事业，这个事业不一定是公司、生意，而是能让你的生活充实的，同时也能给别人带来或多或少快乐的活动。

    16、终于可以比较放松和安全地处理两性关系了，因为性别特征越来越不明显了，况且臭鸡蛋对你的关注力也下降了，除非你是公众人物。

    17、如果没结婚，还可以来一次恋爱。

接见达赖很搞笑。

和中国决裂很搞笑。

决裂了之后要求有建设性对话很搞笑。

坚持拍卖贼赃，公然洗黑钱很搞笑。（把抢来的东西合法化就是洗黑钱噜）

萨科奇获诺贝尔和平奖提名更搞笑！

读经济出身的我，以为经济是所有社会的核心。

原来，有时候，政治才是。

也许是我才疏学浅，我看不出来这些行为当中带来的经济效益。

我并不需要全世界的人对中国顶礼膜拜，因为如果这样，我们就变成美国了。

只是，我喜欢fairness,喜欢一切以经济利益先行。

即使，如最近看的郎咸平的评论，他说美国和欧洲上演的这一场弱欧元强美元的对手戏，绝！

而我觉得，高手就是高手，技不如人，心服口服。

经济为主导，fairness!

有一天，我们同样可以。

又一个情人节过去了，今晚跟阿妹和她男朋友，还有她哥和大嫂一起吃晚饭，然后一起去看海角七号。本来没有这打算的，人家大好节日的，两对couple吃饭我瞎参与什么，只是老早就说了，我想看海角七号，这么不巧它2月14 首映，于是就有了今天的安排。

刚从电影院回来，蛮不能平静的。

其实，大概的内容，跟大部分的情节，我都在台湾看过了，但是就是没有完整从头到尾看过一遍。我很喜欢这电影，虽然不懂里面的语言，但是我懂他们的心情，很同情那位日本老师，很同情友子，那种爱跟迫不得已的分开，那种看对方最后一眼的痛，那种明知道可能今生不会再见，却不敢再看一眼的心酸，所以到最后，男主角跟女主角说，‘不要走，或者我跟你走’的时候，我哭了。

其实，与其说，我喜欢这部戏，不如说，我想了解他。他说他看了6次。如果没有遇到他，我想，也许我也不会对这电影有这么热衷。。

天涯，跟海角真的有再相遇的一天吗？不会要到80岁吧~~

only two days left for 2009~

hooray~after all that happened in 2008, no matter what that is, good or bad, it just helps us grow.

I read an artical today, writen by some ABCs, about the keywords in 2008 of the United States, which are the Olympics, the president election, and the financial crisis.(that guy worked in Wall Street).

lets talk about our keywords. i think it would be the earthquake, the Olympics of course, and the financial crisis.

my tears never stopped during the earthquake time and the Olympics time. but it differed from tears of pain and tears of joy. i got very emotional at that time, coz, ultimately, i am super proud of China now.

about the crisis, that emerges to every corner on the earth i think. there was a period that, every single morning, we were sitting there, waiting for some scary news, like what happened in the top 5 investment banks. but you know whats pathetic, we think things have been calmed now. but as a matter of fact, we just got numb.

anyway, it is the dark before the dawn. but there is still a long way to go.

 

sorry~~~no love story to tell in 2008~~if that disapoints you~

 

heyhey~~happy new year~~~

 

some friend was asking for something other than the business and political thing.

hmm, u know, TW is originally part of China, I have to say. so, most of the things are the same, say the food, the language, the archetecture, and the nature view. so, thats basically why it got Ray the headache to show us around to some place REALLY DIFFERENT. hehe

oh oh, one thing that we dont have, which is Motel~~

they said the beds there are INTERESTING~~hhmm, how interesting would that be? haha.

and, there is one named "台北恋馆", Ray said lots of couples will wait for a room there. and one room will only be occupied for couple of hours.

funny huh?

anyway, it was a great experience.

if you got a chance to go, you should go(i mean Taiwan~~:P).

hey, again, its been long that I havnt blogged anything.

Just finished the long trip in Taiwan, got something to say. so, here we go.

 

First of all, generally people there are nice, especially the new friends I made there, like, Ray, Jocelyn, and some clients (one of those actually was joking about getting me home to be her daughter in law~~~-_-). Thanks so much for the hospitality. and most of the people i met there were in fact hoping the happening of "Three derect links" with mainland. To be honest, I love to hear that. Oh ya, I am quite patriotic. hehe

 

On the other hand, of course, some of those were quite harsh on this issue. They hate products and people from China, they think they can make it a country away from China. They think Taiwan is good enough to be an international metropolise. Blablabla. i am not talking about the politic issure here. and I deep down inside like Taiwan, i think it is nice. Its just, we can not ignore the fact that, there are some more other cities in China that are already much developed than Taipei. and, lets take HONGKONG for example, we should realize that, HK has been better off in some kind of way after its been back to China and accepted the DIY tourists. Last night I was in HK, and walking in the street. In SASA, all the sales-women there were speaking maderin(hard to be understood though), because, ALL the clients there were from Mainland China. Whats more, they were spending THOUSANDS AND THOUSANDS there on Prada, Dior, SKII Lancome, and some other top brands.

Hey!!!!Come on! Look at this! This is business! This is MONEY!

So, lets pray for TW. I hope their new goverment will be smart enough to get more from this big cake.

OK, I am not the world saver though, just hope for the best for Taiwan, the beautiful island.

 

yes, it is beautiful! Especially the sunrise and the forest on Mt.ALISHAN(freezing though), the sunset in Kaohsiung bay, OH OH, the Garanbi(鹅銮鼻) park. that was the best part. the whole view of the grass field, forests, the rocks, the ocean, the blue and clear sky and the breeze, HHMM, incredibly amazing. I will launch the pics on the spz later.

 

Except for the fabulous view, the guide was somehow right about TW, it really is a place with culture crossover, which I like. Coz, you know, if you dont fit in the local culture, you can still find one that fits. TW is more affected by Japanese culture and western culture than what I thought. 

 

There was something I hated during the trip though, Falungong(法轮功) was EVERYWERE! literally EVERYWHERE! Even on Mt.Alishan! come on! Its almost 3km high! Jesus! Anyway, they have their right to choose what to believe. uuuhh

 

For me, ah, dont worry, I can adjust myself in all kinds of live style and culture, and change my accent into the Taiwanese accent. Even some people wondered if I am Taiwanese. hehe. On this piont, I am flexible. But, WHO I AM? hmm. What kind of style really suits me? @_@

 

Ok, to make a long story short, it was a wonderful trip, TW is a nice place. I just hope for one day, the people in Mainland China and people in Taiwan can really get a chance to know more about each other, and will be more involed, as a family.

 

time to bed. g'nite.